A thought for August from Your Critical Friend

It is August. The British summer is in full swing and we are seeing some sunshine. People are happy either because they have been on holiday or their breaks are approaching fast. The roads are quieter, the days are long and the heating is off.


So, this month I am only going to write a short thought because you have better things to do than read it!

At the moment, I am seeing clients who have work and childcare to juggle. A couple have taken their daughters (as it happens) to work for the day. It has been a revelation!

We all know the stories about how children observe what we do for a living. The mildest is “my Mum giggles on the phone all day”. They say what they see and occasionally what they hear.

If your twelve-year-old was with you for a day’s work what would she say?

Some of the things I have been hearing:

  • We went to this swanky hotel and mum spent her time chatting to people and eating cake.
  • This man came and talked to mum about a leaflet. He kept saying you will know what to do. And she was full of ideas and kept drawing them on a pad.
  • Mum was talking to people on the phone – she was polite, she didn’t get angry she was just happy.
  • We stuck all sorts of pictures on a board to show someone. It was fun!
  • We went to see the accountant and talked about the results – Mum says it sounds like we might get a special holiday!

I could go on and on. The point is what would your child see if they were with you for a full eight hours? Would it be you demonstrating knowledge that they had not seen before and did not know you had? Or would you be showing off a skill that is completely natural to you but never seen by your child? And what about your attitude to work? Is it all about passion, motivation and excitement?  Do they see the hard work, focus and commitment you suggest they need!?

What do they observe and what would they say? What do they make of you?  Is your work persona consistent with the parental advice you give? Does it make them proud of you?

And perhaps more importantly what do they think about work? What do they think about your passion and doing what you love? Will seeing what you do motivate them to find the right career path and use their talents and skills? Are you a great role mode, the best you can be?

None of this is original.  Your relationship with your children is special to you but would their observations make you a better person and are you giving them a good model?

If this has been interesting, please share it. If you are thinking of working with a mentor, please chat with me about what you are hoping to achieve. I might be the right person for you or I can help you find someone who is. In the meantime, life is good; let’s live it to the full and be the best we can be.

If you are about to go on holiday have a great break.