Self doubt can affect us all at some point or another.
That feeling that you get when you’re about to do something new, that gives you thoughts like:
‘What are you doing this for?’
‘What will other people think?
Am I doing this right?
‘Do I really know what I’m doing?’
Although at the time it can feel totally rubbish, and even cause you to back away, it’s actually there for a reason.
You see, your subconscious brain is trying it’s best to keep you safe. That’s its primary function, and it does this by keeping you in your comfort zone, as it know’s that you’re safe there.
The thing is, that even though knowing this is helpful, we’re not actually meant to stay stagnant.
So what can you do to overcome self doubt, so you can keep moving forwards?
- Keep a celebration journal
This is such a simple tip but works an absolute treat. Here’s how it works – Get a notebook and pen and put them at the side of your bed. Then every night before you go to sleep, write down at least 3 things that have gone well that day. These could be big or small it doesn’t matter as long as there’s at least 3.
What this does is start to help you to focus on the positives that are happening all the time, and not just the negatives. PLUS as a bonus benefit you’ve also got something to look back on when you need a pick me up.
2. Look for the next small step
Often when we’re struggling with self doubt it’s tricky to move forwards as you’re thinking about the ‘what if’s’ and ‘maybe’s. By looking for the next small step that you can take it doesn’t feel as overwhelming and it still moves you forwards.
3. Tell your fear to take a back seat
As Elizabeth Gilbert said in her book Big Magic: “Your fear should always be allowed to have a voice, and a seat in the vehicle of your life. But whatever you do — don’t let your fear DRIVE.”
Have a word with your fear and lay down some ground rules. Yes it’s got a purpose, but it’s not there to hold you back – and then look for that next small step that you can take.
4. Change your inner talk
How you talk to yourself really does matter, so have a go at switching your inner talk by creating a positive affirmation. An affirmation is a positive sentence that you say to yourself throughout the day to keep you in the right frame of mind. The best one’s start with ‘I’ and are always in the present tense. For example ‘I am having a great day’ ‘I am safe’ ‘I am feeling great.’
5. Know that you’ll handle it.
As Susan Jeffers says in her book ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’ whatever happens ‘you’ll handle it.’ This is a great affirmation to have in the back of your mind because it’s true, and it really takes the pressure off of what you’re about to do.
BONUS TIP: Say Yes anyway and take action…remember those small steps all add up.
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